Kiersty M. Xavier

I am an integrative & existential psychotherapist. I’m all about meaning, purpose, and identity, and I strive to uncover root issues and connect the dots between the deeper layers in order to come up with a customized plan on how to navigate your challenges. I use insight therapy and logic reframing in order to bring greater clarity, self-awareness, and mindset shifts to apply in practical ways in your life.

The question is: Who are you now? Who were you before major life events occurred? How have current life events shaped you? Who are you becoming? Do you like who you are becoming? These questions guide what comes next. I offer personalized guidance grounded in self-understanding so that you know what changes and adjustments need to be made and why.

I’m also a relational therapist. This means I notice patterns that may surface in our own client-therapist relationship. I bring up these real-time observations to create learning moments together. This is a crucial dimension to therapy because I get to know you not just by what you tell me, but how we interact in real-time. It’s my job to help you understand yourself better within a safe space. At the same time, the goal is to gently challenge you to face yourself and hard truths.

I’ve spent years working through my own past trauma and healing journey. I believe my lived experiences allow me to connect with clients more authentically on their path of emotional repair and resilience. My favourite thing about being a therapist is the shared joy in discovering the ‘golden nuggets’ or ‘lightbulb moments’ together.

Prior to starting Ikarus Mind, I worked in multiple Hospitals in Toronto for a span of 8 years working with patients with cancer & chronic illness. Death, Dying, and Grief are areas I am comfortable working with. My experience in hospital work was deeply life-changing for me and I am continually humbled by what matters most in life.

I absolutely love the diversity of people in my practice. All ethnic and cultural backgrounds are welcome.

I would describe myself as:

  • An empath, introvert, and an old soul with a free spirit

Where did I grow up?

  • I was born and raised in Canada, and currently based in Toronto

What generation am I from?

  • I’m a Millennial in my 40s

Things I value:

  • Staying grounded in humility, practicality, paying attention to details, open communication, authenticity, cross-cultural experiences, and keeping a sense of humour

Modalities I use:

  • Psychodynamic and Psychoanalytic Therapy, Inner Child Healing, Narrative Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Existential Therapy, Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Solution-Focused Coaching.

I love working with:

  • Individual Adults & Couples, professionals, health-care workers, parents, high-performers, the analytical, the heavy-hearted, and the dreamers :)

Follow me on Instagram @ikarus_mind to find out my style and approach.

M.A (Univ. of Toronto, 2010), M.T.S (Univ. of Toronto, 2015)

Founder & Clinical Director

Registered Psychotherapist

My Areas of Focus

Experiences

  • Relational Trauma

  • Life Transitions & Starting New Life Stage

  • Outgrowing & Ending Relationships (Separation/Divorce)

  • Anxiety

  • Anger Management, Resentment

  • Marital Issues, Conflict Cycles, Jealousy, Betrayal

  • Unhealthy Family Dynamics

  • Grief, Bereavement, Loss of Loved One

  • Loneliness

  • Parenting hardships

  • Filial Piety, Transgenerational Trauma

  • Lack of Motivation, Adulting Struggles

  • Health Issues

Sense of Self

  • High-Achievers, High-Performers, Perfectionists

  • Self-Identity & Self-Perception

  • Self-Confidence, Self Esteem, Self-Worth

  • Logic vs Emotions; Intellectualizing Emotions, Spiralling

  • Lack of Boundaries, People-Pleasing, Pressure to Perform, Imposter Syndrome

  • Being Controlling

  • Being Defensive

  • Being an Empath

  • Anxious Attachment Style

  • Avoidant-Dismissive Attachment Style

  • Disorganized Attachment Style

  • Sensitivities and Insecurities

  • Emotional Awareness (Connecting to your inner world)